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Ring in the holidays without co-parent stress

If you're one of many New Jersey parents who are getting ready to navigate their first post-divorce holiday season, you might also be among those who are feeling a bit anxious about it all. Like all good parents, you want to keep your children's best interests in mind. That might be challenging, especially if you happen to have an ex who is always trying to oppose your parental authority or undermine your rights.

Laying some ground rules ahead of time and knowing where to seek support if a problem arises are key factors toward achieving a low-stress holiday season. Kids are highly adaptable, and yours will likely take their cues from you and your co-parent. As long as you're both willing to work as a team for their sake, there's no reason to anticipate trouble.

Large upfront alimony payment may be better than monthly payments

You are in the process of getting divorced, and naturally, one of your biggest concerns is how you will support yourself in the years ahead. After all, your spouse was the sole breadwinner during your marriage.

The good news is that you may be able to receive alimony from your soon-to-be ex as part of your divorce settlement. In fact, rather than receiving traditional monthly payments, you could take a single lump-sum payment of alimony if you prefer, and if your spouse agrees to this. Here is a look at how a lump-sum payment of alimony works in New Jersey.

How is marital property divided in New Jersey?

You are on the path to getting divorced, and the journey is bittersweet. On the one hand, you look forward to saying goodbye to your unfulfilling marriage and saying hello to freedom. On the other hand, you worry about how the divorce will affect you financially.

An especially sensitive aspect of any divorce proceeding in New Jersey is property division. Here is a glimpse at how the Garden State handles the division of property.

Can you lessen the stress associated with your divorce?

As you approach your divorce, you may have mixed feelings. Some days you may wonder whether you are making a mistake, and others you may feel completely secure in your decision. You may also have significant concerns over the amount of stress you will feel during your divorce proceedings.

While stress may not be entirely avoidable when it comes to ending a marriage, you do not have to resign yourself to a difficult, overwhelming and mentally crippling process. Instead, you may want to determine ways that you can help yourself feel more at ease and help the process go as smoothly as possible.

More than one kind of child custody exists after divorce

During the dissolution of a marriage, one of your hardest decisions may be who will end up having custody of your children. Will you be the primary custodial parent? Will it be your future ex-spouse? Will you share custody? Child custody is among the biggest sources of contention during a marital breakup that involves children, but these decisions can remain with you and the other parent.

Many individuals who are navigating the divorce process generally understand child custody. However, they might not necessarily understand the different kinds of child custody exist as outlined below.

Keeping track of your alimony payments may pay off long term

Going through divorce can understandably be tough from an emotional standpoint, but it can also be difficult financially. This is particularly true if either you or your soon-to-be ex-spouse will pay alimony.

Determining who should pay alimony following divorce and how much is just part of the equation. The other part is keeping track of your alimony records after the finalizing of your divorce. Here is a look at how courts handle alimony, or spousal maintenance, in New Jersey and what records you should keep.

How will my divorce affect the marital possessions?

There may be a time in life when you decide to break ties with your spouse. If you choose to end your marriage, you will have to divide your joint resources and debts. Some couples can work this out independently, but for others it can be a more complicated issue. 

If you currently face divorce, you may have some of the following questions: How will my marital property be split? Who decides what property division arrangement is fair? Are there specific laws that determine how we distribute our belongings? How can I protect my assets and my best interests?

Is divorce mediation right for you?

If you are facing the end of your marriage, you may start to realize the many tasks that lay ahead. There are property division issues, child support payments to negotiate and custody agreements for starters. You may wonder if an alternative exists to the unhappy court battles you have seen depicted in the movies or witnessed in your own life.

For some, there is a more cost-effective solution, especially for individuals who can work with their spouses to resolve their differences. This route is known as divorce mediation. Divorce mediation allows you and your soon-to-be ex to work together with a third-party mediator to help create a fair settlement on which you both can agree.

What type of child custody will work best for your family?

Every New Jersey family is different, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution to child custody. During a divorce, you will have the right and the option to work with the other parent to reach a child custody order that is best for your unique family. As you consider all of your options, it is beneficial to understand the various types of child custody. 

What works for one family may not work for yours. As you consider all of the issues that will affect custody and visitation, you may find it beneficial to think long term, and not allow your emotions to guide your decision making. One of the first steps to reaching a final custody agreement that is beneficial and functional is to carefully consider all of the options available to you.

Reasons for moving forward with an uncontested divorce

Television shows often portray divorce as a bitter battle between two spouses who cannot stand to even be in the same room with each other. This situation certainly does exist, but that does not mean it is the only reality for divorcing couples.

In some cases, couples in New Jersey are able to agree on the matters surrounding their marital split-up. If you and your spouse find yourself in this situation, you may benefit from an uncontested divorce filing.  


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Mount Laurel, NJ 08054

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